"I'm Done": How The Lone-Soldier Syndrome Can Sabotage Family Caregivers

Caregivers too often fall into "lone-soldier" mode thinking without even realizing it. Feeling responsible for a loved one, they assume the full burden, marching forward without regard to their own emotional needs. Eventual result: one badly wounded soldier who's not much good to anyone.
In reality, it takes a whole army to manage caregiving effectively. Failing to have emotional outlets where you can vent and "be yourself," and failing to let others share the practical burdens, results in a surefire recipe for falling down -- or giving up.

 

Solutions

• Let go of old ideas that asking for help is a sign of weakness. If ever you needed other people in your life, it's now.
• Join a caregiver support group. "I push families to join a support group," says Caring.com's Ken Robbins. "It's really hard just to talk to friends. They get tired of listening to you or have little to offer besides a pat on the back." Groups offer a level of emotional support and group-think problem solving and idea sharing that's different from what a mental health counselor provides in one-on-one sessions. To find a group, ask your doctor or your local Area Agency on Aging, or try an online group.
• See a counselor if you're experiencing signs of depression. It's no stigma to get help; caregivers (and especially dementia caregivers) are in fact at higher risk for depression.
• Arrange monthly or, ideally, weekly respite breaks.

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