Showing posts with label depression. Show all posts
Showing posts with label depression. Show all posts

Thursday, June 26, 2014

Coping With The Death Of A Spouse

After a spouse passes-on, the world can never be the same.One enters a state of grief, moving from feelings of shock, fear, and numbness, possibly into a state of guilt for being the one to survive.It’s not uncommon to feel anger towards your partner for abandoning you.There is no clear roadmap for grief, and emotions that arise can be startling and confusing.All of this is normal.

Symptoms of both emotional and physical pain come uncontrollably in waves, fits of crying, or disorientation.Many experience difficulty sleeping, loss of appetite, inability to concentrate and make decisions.
For some people it doesn’t take long for these reactions to subside, for others it can take a very long time. But for all people in grief, the gripping pain eventually loosens.Some days seem to be easy and others very hard, but at some point the easy days begin to outnumber the hard days.
Sometimes mourning goes on too long, and can lead to depression and anxiety.If you feel your grief has not subsided for a very long time and you cannot perform your everyday tasks, talk to your doctor immediately.
Simple things you can do
In the beginning, you might find it best to keep focused on things you need to do to keep yourself busy.Friends and family members are around a lot during this time, but eventually you’ll need the courage to face the more solitary time.Taking care of yourself is your top priority.Do your best to exercise, eat right, and get plenty of sleep.Avoid too much alcohol or tobacco which put your well-being at risk.Visit your doctor at the usual times, and take all necessary medications.
Be open with the friends that you trust.Sharing the truth of your feelings will help you to heal.You might also consider joining a grief support group.Talking to people in a similar situation, such as groups in hospitals and religious establishments can help you feel like you’re not alone.Individual therapy is also an option.Keep in mind that mourning takes its own time and runs its own course.For awhile you might feel tossed-about by your feelings, but this too shall pass.
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Thursday, July 4, 2013

Why Not Suicide?

I've been surprised that the question of suicide has come up only a few times in a lot of caregiver blogs. For me, life will retain too much meaning to want to leave it early.

But given the attitude of most people towards Alzheimer's, why don't more choose suicide

Certainly many think about it.

On seeing an Alzheimer's patient (or any other person) lying terminally ill and comatose in a nursing home bed, almost everyone thinks, "I don't want to die like that!" Others will feel the same when a person can't remember family or wanders babbling. But when they gets to that point, they rarely suicide. Why not?

For some, of course, the first and overriding issue is that suicide is morally wrong and can't be considered.

Second, while people might want to commit suicide "before I get that bad," very few people will choose suicide while their lives still retain meaning. Some people might choose to kill themselves while they're suffering greatly, but the prospect of future suffering is not enough of a motive.
If life is worth living now, we hang on to it. We are, after all, attached to life.

Third, many people with Alzheimer's lose their ability to commit suicide before they're ready to go through with it.

The novel Still Alice depicts an intellectual college professor with early-onset Alzheimer's who decides she'll suicide when it gets "too bad." She places into the medicine chest a bottle of pills strong enough to kill her and writes herself a note with exact instructions on when and how to use the pills. As she gradually declines, she gradually loses the capacity to remember or figure out what she meant. Ultimately, she wonders who this person is who is trying to kill her by writing this note to her.

Fourth, the experience of the person with Alzheimer's may not be as bad as we—who are looking in from the outside—think it would be. When we get there, we may find no reason to suicide.
As unimpaired people or as people earlier in the disease, we project how we will feel in the future but, in fact, we have little idea what our experience will be then.

In the Comments section of this blog and in emails to me, I've read beautiful stories about the happiness of patients with very advanced disease. Maybe most of them aren't suffering much at all.
Finally, one values life differently as one gets sicker.

I worked for many years in a home and hospice for homeless men with AIDS. Most of them were admitted when their symptoms were relatively mild; they'd see other patients about to die and vow to overdose before they got "that bad." As far as I know, none ever did or even tried to.
As we approach the end, to have a "meaningful life" requires less and less.

Human beings generally value their lives deeply. We may think that when we reach such-and-such a condition, our lives will lose that value. But, apparently, that's very seldom true.
My understanding is that the suicide rate for people with Alzheimer's is low.

I'm not surprised.

For my own part, I think I'll be just too curious about what the future holds to consider walking out.
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Tuesday, July 2, 2013

Decoding the Dementia, Depression Link

Memory trouble, excessive sleeping, decreased interest in hobbies and activities, social withdrawal—all of these are symptoms often exhibited by a person who is suffering from depression.

They also happen to be hallmark signs of many dementias, including the two most common forms: Alzheimer's disease and vascular dementia.

The undeniable connection between these depression and dementia has ignited a firestorm of research in recent years. Much of the scientific debate centers on a quintessential chicken and egg dilemma—which comes first: depression, or dementia?

Can being diagnosed with dementia cause someone to become depressed, or is depression a harbinger of cognitive impairment to come?

Examining the relationship between dementia and depression
Several new studies aimed at illuminating the relationship between these two cognitive conditions has shed some interesting light on how depression might affect a person's risk for exhibiting signs of dementia later on in life.

A bout of depression may potentially triple a person's risk for developing dementia, according to research recently published in the Archives of General Psychiatry.

Scientists from the University of California, San Francisco, found a significant link between depression and the two most common forms of dementia—Alzheimer's disease and vascular dementia. The timing of the onset of depression (mid-life versus late-in-life) appeared to have an impact on which type of dementia an individual was more likely to get.

An individual who struggled with depression in their 40s and 50s, was found to be three times more likely than a person without mid-life depression to develop dementia—specifically vascular dementia, which is caused by brain damage due to disrupted blood flow—in their later years.
If, however, an individual became clinically depressed in their 80s and beyond, they were twice as likely as their non-depressed peers to develop Alzheimer's dementia.

A separate study, published in the British Journal of Psychiatry, showed similar results, with a slightly different slant.

In their investigation, University of Pittsburgh researchers concluded that late-life depression did indeed increase an individual's risk for acquiring dementia. However it was vascular dementia—not Alzheimer's—that appeared to be most prevalent in depressed older adults.

Causes both biological and behavioral
When asked to explain the mechanisms behind the depression-dementia link, experts extoll a variety of theories.

According to Kenneth Freundlich, Ph.D., a clinical neurologist with the Morris Psychological Group, there are currently several different biological factors that may help explain the relationship between depression and dementia:
  • Confusing cortisol: Depressed individuals tend to produce higher amounts of the hormone cortisol, which can impair the areas of the brain that are responsible for short-term memory and learning.
  • Disorienting inflammation: Depression can also cause blood vessel-damaging inflammation to occur in the brain.
  • Stress-induced damage: The hippocampus, the part of the brain responsible for turning information into memory, can be harmed when exposed to extended periods of stress.
However, he cautions that no one model has been identified as the explanation for the depression-dementia connection.

"Despite a variety of theories, the depression-dementia link is one that is not fully understood," he says, "People who are experiencing the early stages of dementia frequently become depressed and people who are depressed have an increased risk for developing dementia."

There are also certain behavioral elements which may play a role, according to Robin Dessel, Director of Memory Care at the Hebrew Home at Riverdale. Dessel says, "Depression and dementia mirror each other in a catalogue of symptoms and triggers. There is a very real and integral connection between the health and well-being of brain and body, mind and spirit."

For example, one of the primary symptoms of depression is an unwillingness to engage in regular activities and socialization opportunities, which may lead to what Dessel refers to as an, "inactive brain and a depressed lifestyle."

This lack of action can enhance an individual's susceptibility to showing signs of dementia, especially when compounded by certain genetic, physiological and environmental factors that have been shown to contribute to cognitive impairment.

Identifying and managing depression while caregiving
The specific factors that underlie the depression-dementia link are still foggy. However, the need to effectively identify and treat depression in adults—regardless of their age—is crystal clear.
Nearly 19 million American adults suffer from depression, according to the Centers for Disease Control. More than one-third of these individuals are over age 65. Depression is not a symptom of aging; it is a legitimate psychological condition that requires intervention.

Caregivers need to be ultra-vigilant and on-the-lookout for the warning signs of depression, both in themselves and in their elderly loved ones. Common symptoms of depression include:
  • Feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness or helplessness
  • Excessive worrying
  • Trouble sleeping or concentrating
  • Becoming socially withdrawn
  • Thoughts of suicide
If you feel your loved one (or you) may be clinically depressed, the first step to take is to seek medical attention. Make an appointment with a licensed mental health practitioner to see whether the problem truly is depression or is being caused by another issue.

Once a diagnosis has been made, there are specific steps that can be taken to help someone who suffers from depression.

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