Missing Mom on Mother's Day

Mother's Day can be a hard holiday to handle for those caregivers who have lost their mothers.


If it's a recent loss, the omnipresent messages of Mother's Day may feel like too much to bear. If more time has passed, Mother's Day may inspire you to do something special to honor the memory of the woman who will always remain in your heart.


But, regardless of the amount of time that has passed, there are several ways that you can manage your grief while remembering Mom this Mother's day.


The Dignity Memorial® network of funeral providers offers five tips to manage grief during Mother's Day:

1. Buy a Card: It's hard to escape Mother's Day cards for sale in the month of May. If the card display makes you feel emotional, go ahead and buy a card that captures your feelings or your relationship with your mother. Thoughtful, serious, or funny, the card you choose can help put your emotions and thoughts into words. Tap into those memories, and write a note in the card. You can bring the card to your mother's gravesite, or keep it in a special place at home.
2. Set a Place: On Mother's Day, set an extra place at the dinner table for Mom. You might include your mother's photograph at the place setting as well. Keeping her seat at the table can help you feel as though she's still included in the family meal. Along with this idea, each family member can share a special memory of Mom or Grandma before beginning the meal. Preparing your mother's favorite meal, or a special recipe she taught you how to prepare, is another way to embrace happy memories of Mom on Mother's Day, rather than focusing on her absence.
3. Bring Flowers: Bringing flowers to your mother's gravesite on Mother's Day is a lovely way to pay tribute to her. When so many others are rushing about to buy last-minute gifts, cook meals or make one or more visits to parents and in-laws, take the time to visit your mother's gravesite for some moments of quiet reflection. A fresh arrangement of her favorite flowers can add some color and a touch of spring. If Mom's gravesite is in another state, ask the cemetery about placing a floral arrangement for you. As an added service, most Dignity Memorial providers have relationships with local florists to make ordering flowers easy.
4. Visit Another Mother: Mother's Day can feel lonely if you can't visit or call your own mother. Consider visiting a senior in a nursing home, or senior center who might not otherwise have any visitors on Mother's Day. If appropriate and permitted by the facility, younger children can also enjoy the visit. Instead of feeling alone with your memories on Mother's Day, use the day to bring joy to another mother's afternoon.
5. Donate Your Time: They say charity begins at home, and many moms leave a legacy of giving. Keep her legacy alive by volunteering with a meaningful local organization on Mother's Day. Serving meals at a local food pantry, planting new flowers or vegetables at a community garden or reading to children through a hospital program are examples of volunteer opportunities that might reflect your mother's interests while allowing you to spend an otherwise tough day in service to others.

Missing Mom on Mother's Day is natural. And how you choose to spend Mother's Day when Mom is gone may vary from year to year.

However you decide to spend the day, grief experts agree that it's most important for you to listen to your heart and allow yourself to do as much or as little as you are able to do. Giving yourself permission to grieve for and honor your mother in whatever way you need to is essential for coping with an elderly parent's death while remembering Mom this Mother's Day.



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